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Q – I am a 50-year-old man, married for 21 years, we have 4 children, maximum of them adults, with the exception of the youngest.
The love that we had originally disappeared over the years, however, must remain united so as not to break the family. Or we are faithful, but love and love have been lacking for many years.
My challenge is that my wife is on a wave cycle. For almost two weeks every month, she is the kindest woman and I start to feel that we are close and that it is for me to start falling in love with her again.
When I succeed in this climax of emotions and am able to open my center again, she turns around and becomes very unpleasant in the way she treats me.
Every word I say or any movement makes it even if it’s the slightest mistake. I am very careful with what I have to say or how to react to anything in your presence, for fear that it will either either either either explode in anger.
We spend about two weeks in this state, and then it becomes a kind and soft again, tolerant and extroverted.
This cycle of feelings destroys me and when it reaches this low point, I feel sick, with power and appetite for life.
Sometimes I think it’s not for my center to open backwards, because at some point it will break it when the upper wave is over.
This has happened several times and hurts each and every one.
We’ve been like this since we got married, but at first I didn’t realize the wave cycle.
It was only over the years that I could perceive and, as it should be, I am waiting for it.
I don’t know what the professional solution is here, however, she’s the woman I enjoyed and would love again.
I’m giving up these appointments yet and I need to do everything I can to save them.
Please help
A – You have taken a step by giving the concept of hope a try.
The next step is to do some initial studies on this normal personality change cycle. Once you have a fundamental understanding of what you’re physically, psychologically, and emotionally concerned about in those behavioral “waves,” you’ll know what kind of professional treatment you’ll need, whether and when.
This is a vital and courageous step he has taken to renounce his wife, who is forced to be so concerned about these mood swings.
A quick Google search, as an example, led me to bipolar disorder at the Mayo Clinic site: it is described as an intellectual fitness factor that causes excessive mood swings that come with emotional ups and downs (mania or hypomania) and depression (depression).
He is treated with medicine and mental recommendation (psychotherapy).
To see a psychotherapist for genuine diagnosis and treatment, whatever the cause, you want your wife to want to be informed about how to moderate her waves of temperament and behavior.
Talk to him during his calm and sweet time. Suggest that there are tactics to make her feel this more and make sure you don’t blame her for mood swings.
It would be wise to first touch the doctor in your family circle to have a general physical checkup, in case there is a medical basis for your “waves” in progress.
Q – My sister is very wise and runs her own business very successfully. Her husband is an artistic guy who has done well for a while, however, since the pandemic, his promotional concepts have been bought through the corporations he has presented.
My sister loves him, his nine-year-old loves him, but I don’t feel bad that she has to take on all the daily jobs and workload to pay her bills.
How can I tell you that it is unfair for her to do everything for the company and also to meet her needs?He paid to upgrade his old car.
Worried sister
Don’t say anything. Instead, her efforts and as an aunt to her son. She is said not to ask for help and, as you said, loves her husband.
The COVID-19 pandemic has affected the income of countless people, many of whom are interested in the arts and artistic fields.
Your sister’s monetary arrangements with your husband are your business.
Ellie of the Day
Regular temperament adjustments over the years require a medical examination and, in all likelihood, psychotherapy. Supporting a wife through this shows a real partnership.